Thoughts and Feelings ( 2 )

Why do people tend to hurt themselves over others ?! You make your decisions and moves, always keeping in mind what others will think or how they'll feel. Even if you think you don't, you always have that in the back of your head. I'm not saying do whatever you want and don't care how people will feel , or hurt whoever you want and don't care !! But why don't we ever think about overselves ?? And I don't mean in a selfish way but again don't just neglect the inner you !! Don't shut it up for long cause you never know what might happen as a consequence to that. The only one who'll be truely hurt is yourself. Of course a decision you make may affect another person and hurt him, but its just temporary cause everyone forgets and forgives after some time. But if you neglect yourself once, you'll just keep on neglecting yourself for others, and in the end, yes everyone around you will be happy, but the most important one won't be; YOU !! You'll soon lose yourself and turn into a new person that you never thought you'd turn into. Soon after that you'll lose the ability to continue pleasing others over yourself. You'll be fed up and you might just burst. Its just a matter of time.
When thinking of a solution and what exactly you should do; should you neglected the inner you and lose yourself, or please yourself and might end up hurting a very close beloved person ? You just have to search and search for an answer. You think and think but you never reach anything, cause by that time you would have been in so deep with a lot of people. So my advice always start from the beginning and don't neglect yourself. But after searching and thinking and trying to resolve the problem you just find that the best solution for everyone is just neglecting yourself and keep on pleasing others, its the easiest solution.
It has only one problem though, this solution is not best for YOU !!